Help your love to grow as a person…

I always hear people - friends as well as others- discuss their partners in terms of; “is she the right one for me?” “Is he really my Prince Charming???”

I admit - I used to be one of those people myself. Always wondering, always asking meself if “she” was the princess I’d been waiting for. But somewhere along the way I read something somewhere. I can’t recall if it was some old asian word of wisdom, or what it really was. What I do remember, is that it made some impression on me. It read:

“Do not be so concerned whether she is the right one for you, or not. Instead put your effort in being the right one for her.”

Now - this is truly words of wisdom. These words are damn well worth pondering over. Are we all too self-occupied? Are we or aint we looking only to our own good?

What do these words mean?

There was no answer to that. No key to the right answers… So I had to be my own interpreter.

Eventually, I did find some ways to put this to use in my every day life together with me wife.

First of all; try to be her best support, her best sponsor if you like. Every now and then she she will need your support in one way or another. You will need to be there for her - to comfort, to support, to tell her she’s doing the right thing, to help her her decide…(you decide how long you want this list to be…) Always, always!, let her know that you are by her side, and by her side only. Make it your task to see to it, that she feels good and comfortable. She is worth your every effort - remember, you do love her - right?

This has grown to be very important to me, and my wife, in our relationship. No matter what happends, we both know that we can count on each other’s support. We can rely on each other in every situation what ever it may be.

In situations of sorrow, grief or despair, be there for her, try helping find a way out of it. Or if it is impossible at the time, just be there by her side. She needs the comfort and empathy you can offer.

Also in moments of utter happiness, there aint no joy if we have no one to share it with. Here, too, she wants you to be by her side. To be honestly happy for her. Share her tears, whether they are tears of sorrow, ot tears of joy.

And then what? What else does this saying mean?

I’d say: Do whatever you can do to help her grow as a person! Is she a hobby writer? Then encourage her from your heart, let her know what she is good at, praise her improvements with all your heart. Tell her that she is a good writer - push her onwards. There is nothing more uplifting to me, than when my wife boost my self-confidence by saying: “That song is so good!” about a song I wrote, and played it for her for the first time. One of the best moments I ever had was one time, when I played a sad song I just wrote, to her. When I finished, she looked at me without words, and tears was running down her cheeks. She didn’t need to say anything.

We all need this. We all need to hear that we are good at something. We all need to be encouraged.  And who would tell us, if not our loved ones? I am most fortunate to have this wonderful, sexy, loving wife that keeps telling me I’m the world’s most fantastic man.

Sometimes I actually believe her….. ;o)